I find it kind of unsettling the amount of times a day I see the word “haters” splashed across Facebook/twitter/blogs/etc.
People calling out these haters for doubting their healthy lifestyle commitment, non-fitness freaks calling their opposites haters because they can’t eat cookies. It goes on and on.
I fully admit way back when I started this blog I got into that mindset.
“Haters gonna hate”
“They’re just jealous”
“Everyone is waiting for me to fail”
Ummm, wake up call Becca. You’re a bottom two figure competitor who still has mega food issues and rebounds 40lbs every offseason. No one is “threatened” enough by you to even waste their time hating on you.
That’s right, team average and totally okay with it.
When I joined Blueprint in prep for Atlantics almost a year and a half ago I made an unconscious decision to surround myself with positive, supportive people both in real life and my online presence.
From my family, to my coaches and teammates, the blogs and twitter people I follow, I made the choice to stop with the negativity. Getting on stage was a personal choice, I was doing it for me and for once, not the approval of others. Letting go of the mindset I needed to get on stage to prove everyone I could was one of the most freeing things I’ve ever done.
No longer did I feel the need to be the strongest person in the gym, the fastest runner on the trail or the most badass competitor on stage. I checked my ego and went back to basics, focusing on form and health and why I wanted to compete.
That doesn’t mean everything is roses and sunshine. Everyone doesn’t agree with me and that’s what makes me a better person. Now when someone questions something I say or do, I no longer start the jealous hater talk. I educate myself, I ask questions, I explain. Surrounding myself with positive people whose opinion I respect allows me to completely ditch the negative mindset because I know those people are only questioning me because they care about me both as a person and an athlete.
So maybe you’re still in the hater mindset… You think the world is against you… Maybe it’s time to look in the mirror to see whose opinion matters most, and who you need to respect at the end of the day. When you cultivate that negative mindset the only thing you’re doing is fuelling the self doubt and negativity and no one needs that whether they step on stage, run races, or just lift heavy and eat lots of cake.